Does your child give up when they face a challenge? It can be frustrating to watch them quit when you know their potential. Persevering is a skill that can be developed and celebrated as long as you can answer this question:
๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฒ๐ ๐ฝ๐ฒ๐ฐ๐๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐ผ๐ป๐ ๐ณ๐ผ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ๐๐ฟ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฑ ๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ฎ๐น๐ถ๐๐๐ถ๐ฐ?
Life skills are built o
n top of each other, like a pyramid. A child is not ready to write if they canโt hold a pencil yet. A child canโt hold a pencil or pen until they can take hold of an item. You can realistically expect a child to do something once theyโve mastered the underlying skills.
Here some ways you can help your child persevere:
1. Celebrate their unsuccessful attempts
Perseverance isnโt about getting things right all the time. Itโs developed by trying again after unsuccessful attempts. Your child might feel sad when theyโre unsuccessful. Validate their feelings, and express pride that they attempted something difficult.
2. Ask for a few more good tries
Asking them to give a few more good tries (you can even let them pick the number) teaches them to try again when
they feel like giving up. If theyโre unsuccessful, celebrate their attempt. Then, show them how they can accomplish what theyโre attempting next time.
3. Offer filtered help
When your child is trying something new, there may be parts they know how to do, and other parts they donโt. You can help your child by demonstrating how to do the parts they donโt know how to do yet. This gives them structure to make progress while doing something challenging.
๐ ๐ผ๐๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ถ๐บ๐ฒ, ๐ฎ ๐ฐ๐ต๐ถ๐น๐ฑ ๐๐ถ๐น๐น ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฒ๐ฑ ๐๐ผ๐บ๐ฒ ๐น๐ฒ๐๐ฒ๐น ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐๐ฝ๐ฝ๐ผ๐ฟ๐ ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ผ๐บ ๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ป ๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ ๐ณ๐ฒ๐ฒ๐น ๐น๐ถ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐ด๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐๐ฝ. Implementing steps like these teaches kids what they can do when they get this feeling.
Parents occasionally need extra support to address the underlying concerns behind their childโs behaviour. I regularly partner with parents to help them understand the child's concerns and what they can do to support their child. If you'd like this extra support, I encourage you to contact me
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