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How To Build Resilience In Your Kids

Does your child give up when they face a challenge? It can be frustrating to watch them quit when you know their potential. Persevering is a skill that can be developed and celebrated as long as you can answer this question:

๐—”๐—ฟ๐—ฒ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฒ๐˜…๐—ฝ๐—ฒ๐—ฐ๐˜๐—ฎ๐˜๐—ถ๐—ผ๐—ป๐˜€ ๐—ณ๐—ผ๐—ฟ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚๐—ฟ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐—ฟ๐—ฒ๐—ฎ๐—น๐—ถ๐˜€๐˜๐—ถ๐—ฐ?

Life skills are built o

n top of each other, like a pyramid. A child is not ready to write if they canโ€™t hold a pencil yet. A child canโ€™t hold a pencil or pen until they can take hold of an item. You can realistically expect a child to do something once theyโ€™ve mastered the underlying skills.

Here some ways you can help your child persevere:

1. Celebrate their unsuccessful attempts

Perseverance isnโ€™t about getting things right all the time. Itโ€™s developed by trying again after unsuccessful attempts. Your child might feel sad when theyโ€™re unsuccessful. Validate their feelings, and express pride that they attempted something difficult.

2. Ask for a few more good tries

Asking them to give a few more good tries (you can even let them pick the number) teaches them to try again when

they feel like giving up. If theyโ€™re unsuccessful, celebrate their attempt. Then, show them how they can accomplish what theyโ€™re attempting next time.

3. Offer filtered help

When your child is trying something new, there may be parts they know how to do, and other parts they donโ€™t. You can help your child by demonstrating how to do the parts they donโ€™t know how to do yet. This gives them structure to make progress while doing something challenging.

๐— ๐—ผ๐˜€๐˜ ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ ๐˜๐—ถ๐—บ๐—ฒ, ๐—ฎ ๐—ฐ๐—ต๐—ถ๐—น๐—ฑ ๐˜„๐—ถ๐—น๐—น ๐—ป๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—ฑ ๐˜€๐—ผ๐—บ๐—ฒ ๐—น๐—ฒ๐˜ƒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—ผ๐—ณ ๐˜€๐˜‚๐—ฝ๐—ฝ๐—ผ๐—ฟ๐˜ ๐—ณ๐—ฟ๐—ผ๐—บ ๐˜†๐—ผ๐˜‚ ๐˜„๐—ต๐—ฒ๐—ป ๐˜๐—ต๐—ฒ๐˜† ๐—ณ๐—ฒ๐—ฒ๐—น ๐—น๐—ถ๐—ธ๐—ฒ ๐—ด๐—ถ๐˜ƒ๐—ถ๐—ป๐—ด ๐˜‚๐—ฝ. Implementing steps like these teaches kids what they can do when they get this feeling.

Parents occasionally need extra support to address the underlying concerns behind their childโ€™s behaviour. I regularly partner with parents to help them understand the child's concerns and what they can do to support their child. If you'd like this extra support, I encourage you to contact me


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